How to play truth or dare in everyday life?
Truth or Dare.
Are you a tell-it-like-it-is kind of a person so choosing truth is easy?
Are you an adventurous person who loves a challenge so picking dare is the obvious choice?
Let me reframe the question.
Would you pick truth because doing something unknown and out of your comfort zone freaks you the hell out?
Would you pick dare because you hate getting personal and vulnerable so the idea of sharing your heart and soul makes you cringe?
The reason behind your choice is more important than the choice itself.
I haven’t thought about this “game” in a long time until my coach and friend, Camden Hoch, created her own podcast called “Truth & Dare” on iTunes. It’s brilliant. What I love is that the conversations are real. It’s not surface-level B.S. It’s all about being vulnerable and sharing your heart’s wisdom. That is the very foundation of each episode and why I was truly honored to participate.
At first, I was not sure where the conversation was going to go. I had to get out of my comfort zone knowing that sharing my truth would hopefully support someone in their own life. I also knew that I needed to take part in a dare so I could continue to go to the next level in my own life.
The question I asked myself was this:
How do I add more truth and more dare into my daily life?
It’s not about playing the “game” like you did when you were a kid. It doesn’t even need to be done with a group of people. This can be a solo journey that is all about how to grow and evolve as humans.
Below are a few ideas for Truth and Dare. I encourage you to choose from both categories.
Add More Truth To Each Day
Take a piece of paper and write down something you have never told anyone. It’s always a great release to get things off your chest. Feel free to keep, shred or safely burn when complete.
Be honest in all your communications. It’s easier to say yes and take on one more thing instead of saying no. It’s easier to go along with the crowd instead of voicing our opinion. I encourage you to speak up while at the same time being graceful, kind and respectful to the other person.
The next time you have a brunch with your close friends, or a family get together, ask questions beyond the typical weather, kids and family talk. That’s all good stuff, but think about ways you could learn more about each other. Here are a couple of questions to get you started. What was the most impactful experience of your life? What was the most painful experience you’ve ever been through and how did it shape you into the person you are at today? Definitely not light conversation; however, you may experience a connection with someone you didn’t expect. If you’ve been through a traumatic experience and find out one of your family or friends has gone through the same thing, think about how that could bring you closer and possibly support each other.
Do a personal assessment and ask yourself what areas in your life are you not being completely truthful? How are you being in your life? How are you showing up? What kind of legacy are you building? These are all great questions to start asking ourselves. If the you don’t have the answers right away that’s okay. The process of you asking will give way for the answers to unfold in the right time.
Don’t be afraid of being honest or vulnerable. When you bring awareness to the truth that’s when you can really start to heal. If you constantly run away from it or shove your feelings down, then it will eat away at you from the inside out. That’s what happened to me. I was a workaholic. I didn’t see it as a negative. I had goals – nothing wrong with that. When I was finally honest with myself, I was able to that the road I was on was impacting my relationships as well as my health I knew I had to dive deeper.
Add More Dare To Each Day
Did you do #1 from the Truth section? I dare you to share it with someone close to you. Allow someone else in and let them see and hear you. Every single person has gone through some major stuff and has faced challenges. Sharing is how we connect and learn from each other.
Try something new each month. Do you want to take a class? Do you want to try a new cuisine? Do you want to travel to an exotic place? Do you want to go sky diving? Write down 12 ideas and then schedule one per month in your calendar. Treat it like any other appointment or meeting to make sure it happens.
Take a risk. This could be anything from wearing a daring outfit to creating a proposal for your boss on an idea you’ve had for a while now. It could be taking music or vocal lessons. It could be taking a course or hiring a coach to take your career and dreams to the next level. Where can you take a (healthy) risk? Don’t take this to mean you should go do hard drugs because you’ve always been curious. That’s not what I mean here.
Do you have a business idea or side hustle? Create goals and action plan to get you one step closer to your dreams. Dare to take a step in the direction of creating a life that you genuinely enjoy and love.
What is one dare you can choose today so that you can continue to challenge yourself in your life right now? I love trying new things so that will always be one of my ongoing dares. Another is to be more open and vulnerable in all my relationships. It’s not something that comes easily for me.
Truth is sacred.
Dare makes me feel alive.
Notice it’s not Truth or Dare anymore. We need both to truly continue to grow and take our lives to the next level.
You can listen to the full episode of Truth & Dare here.
How do you play truth and dare in your everyday life? Comment below.